New Shirt & Mean Comment

I have two topics for today’s blog post.  One involving a wonderful experience, and one that’s… well, not as wonderful.  Which should I talk about first?  Hmmm… Let’s get the negative one out of the way:

I got my first mean comment! I kinda knew, deep down, that this would come.  It arrived a few days ago, in the blizzard of comments and notes and messages regarding my appearance on Ellen, but I’m just getting to it now.

For all you non-bloggers out there, here’s how the comments section operates (at least on WordPress):  I have to approve first-time commenters on my blog, which means that their comment isn’t seen by anyone before me.  Once I approve someone the first time, their comment goes public, and they’re free, from that point forward, to comment as much as they like, with their comments getting posted immediately.  I can still go back at any point and delete any comment I wish, but so far, I’ve never deleted a comment, nor have ever not approved a new commenter.  Until now.  Someone left a very mean-spirited comment earlier this week, and I’m not going to approve it, because I don’t want to give them free reign to leave more.  I will, however, share the comment with all of you, because, why not?  I’m not offended by it – maybe I would be if it weren’t so stupid.  Here it is:

“what size bra do you wear now?”

They signed it “Mike Hunt” – clever! They also left an email address (which you have to do when you leave a comment), so I have that, but I’m not gonna share it, or do anything with it.  It’s not worth my time or effort to respond any more than I’m doing right now, and plus, who knows if it’s even real.

Moving on to better things…

I had an awesome shopping experience today. I’m still in Michigan, and I needed to buy a dress  shirt.  I went to the nearby Men’s Wearhouse, where I had had a fantastic suit-buying experience last summer.  A lovely, slim, young woman named Amanda helped me.  I told her I needed to buy a shirt, but wasn’t sure of my size, as I had been losing weight.  “My last shirt was size 17 1/2, but I’m hoping I’m down to 17 now” (17 refers to my neck measurement in inches, for anyone who hasn’t bought men’s shirts before).  Amanda had already looped the measuring tape around my neck when she responded.  “Oh, you’re definitely not a 17,” she said.  “You’re way beyond that.  I’d say 16.”  My eyes widened, and I followed her to a rack, where she pulled a 16.  It ended up fitting perfectly.

“What’s your secret for all the weight loss?” Amanda asked me.  I told her a little about what I’m doing, and then she told me that she had lost 200 pounds (!) about 10 years ago and has kept it off!  Amazing.  She had a gastric bypass (and, at age 17, was the youngest person ever to have one at that time), but still – surgeries don’t always mean weight loss success, especially if you don’t work at it.  She then told me about how so many obese people, over the years, had disapproved of surgery because of the scar it would leave.  Amanda’s response?  “C’mon.  The people that say that are 100, 200 pounds overweight.  My choice was between being 200 pounds overweight or having a scar.  When you’re that overweight, let’s face it, bikini season ended when you were about 7 years old anyway.  I don’t care about a scar!”

I adored Amanda even more after she said that, and despite costing more than I was planning on paying, I promptly bought the shirt from her, happily.

My new size 16 shirt means that I’ve now lost SIX INCHES around my neck.  SIX INCHES!

Keep it up, David!

25 Responses to New Shirt & Mean Comment

  1. Melissa Walker says:

    Hi David.
    Yea that isn’t nice what the person wrote to you. Don’t let it bother you. You are doing awesome and I am so happy for you :)The ones who hate really are just jealous. Congrats on the weight loss. I am currently trying to lose weight and I love reading about how others have success on their weight-loss. You look great 🙂

  2. Sherri S. says:

    I just started following your blog David. Keep up the great work, and thanks for the chuckle on Mr. Hunt.

    I blog about nutrition and diet and would love to hear your feedback.


  3. Meg says:

    That person is pathetic and jealous, either that or they are still in jr. high & need to get a life. Great news about the shirt! I missed you on Ellen, but will catch up on line! Keep it up and thanks for being such an inspiration for so many others…. p.s. Did you get Amanda’s #? ;>

  4. Lynn says:

    David, you should be so proud of yourself! You are an inspiration to anyone who has had a weight problem. I admire your strength and courage and don’t let some sad person and their rude comment bring you down. Keep it up, David.

  5. Sonya says:

    Hi David, I think it’s amazing how far you’ve come, such an inspiration to many of us. I have about 100 lbs I’ve been struggling with, and seeing how you’ve been so strong really encourages me! Keep it up!!! As for the mean comment, I agree with the others, that person is just jealous! you look great and so happy! I loved seeing you on the “Ellen” show, and Richard Simmons always makes me smile too. Loved it!

  6. Lish says:

    wow, thats an amazing feat. Good on you for doing such a good job!! Keep it up.

  7. Jeni K says:

    Kuddos to you for not letting that comment get ya down. 🙂

    Congrats on the weight loss! I think it is just wonderful. I have just decided recently that it’s time to lose the weight (I have about 70lbs to drop) and your blog is so inspiring. Keep up the good work!

  8. Andrea says:

    Hi David, you are an amazing role model for anyone who has stuggled with a weight problem. As for the inconsiderate who left that post, well they are from a misguided group of people who practice what is called “trolling” It’s when they think its funny to write something that is deliberately designed to get a reaction. Who knows what has happened to them in their lives, to be so insecure that all they have is putting people down to make themselves feel better. Feel sorry for them and hope that they get a lighbulb moment that will put him on the path to a better and healthier life, inside and out. For in the end this is what you have done, and this is what they are jealous of and pathetically trying to sabotage.
    As for your fantastic shopping trip well done. It’s milestone’s like these that can make your month.

  9. Haggy Hageman says:

    David, that is wonderful!! Keep up the good work!

  10. Only someone with a major attitude problem or self esteem issues would wrote that. Also, bad comments are fine as long as they are constructive, which that one just couldn’t be.

    You have worked so hard and come so far, so glad you are sharing your journey! You are an inspiration to all of us trying to lose weight without surgery (happy for the girl that had it as out worked, but I like the challenge-and the non-invasive nature and affordability- of doing it through diet and exercise).

    Congrats on your new skinny self!

  11. Tracy says:

    Negative comments are stupid. Don’t you wonder about someone who went through all of the trouble to find your blog, just to post that?
    The other ones that drive me crazy are the passive aggressive comments explaining why it’s so much harder for them to lose weight. Which of course infers that it was easy for you! I get those a lot. Drives me crazy. I think women do that more than men.
    Congrats on the shirt! Sorry you’re up here in the cold and snow again. I’m right on the Ohio/Michigan line and it’s cold and snowy. 😦

  12. David, that’s a fantastic NSV! (nonscale victory!) And just ignore the dumb meanies.

  13. Jenny Dahl says:

    Hi, David! Fantastic job!

    As for the idiot who left the mean comment: People can always lose weight; the idiot will always be an idiot.

  14. Joe says:

    When someone goes out of their way to post a comment like that, you know you’re doing something right!

  15. Emmy says:

    Good for you for not letting that person get to you! Congrats on the new shirt size! That is amazing!!

  16. Kim says:

    You truely are inspirational!

  17. JoeBob says:

    I am sorry.

  18. JoeBob says:

    I am sorry.
    -Mike Hunt

  19. Tavi says:

    congrats on the mean comment! this is propelling you into a whole new level of celebrity!

  20. Karen N. says:

    Just finished watching the video of your interview on the Ellen show….very inspiring….

    You are an inspiration to those of us that want to lose weight, but feel overwhelmed…

    Bless you — and thank you for sharing your story with us.

    Karen N. from Canada

  21. I added you on twitter a few minutes ago after seeing you on a friend’s page then I realized that I saw you in a clip from Ellen last week. Congrats on many levels David.

    I got my first rude comment the week that I hit my first 100 pounds lost, and I let it go. Now I receive rude comments from the same IP address pretty regularly so I moderate because they don’t deserve the opportunity to be rude and because the jerks who aren’t supportive just don’t matter.

    Congrats on the neck size too. In your Ellen interview you mentioned that you wrists were smaller, and I had noticed that a few days before you said it.

    You have so much to smile about..I hope you are! =)

  22. Adam Hand says:

    I just saw your before and after photos on Ellen’s fan page. It’s inspiring what you’ve done. I recently lost 46 lbs. I still have about 80 more to go. I want to be about 200 pounds. I’ve not read anything about your story yet but seeing the before and after is a shock in itself. Good luck with al the successes you already have and all your future ventures.

  23. Terrie Hudnut says:

    Sorry doesn’t cut it Mike. And I agree with Jenny. Once and idiot always and idiot
    The Stone…after a throw
    The WORD…after it is said
    The Occasion…after it is over
    The Time…after it is gone

    But let us hope he was learned and important lesson!

  24. Tina White says:

    David I have been following u on fb n u r a real inspiration to me… I just realized that I am a stress eater and I will eat just about anything.. Im glad you are sharing your journey.. Its helping people get fit physically & mentally.. God bless you.. & that mean comment must of came from a misery because u know yhey love company..glad u ignored it..

  25. Kim says:

    It’s the little ‘jabs’ and comments that can make or break a persons spirit!
    So glad you have a good attitude and doing so well!!!

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